Patti Novak

Signs to tell if he is into you: Sign #1: He can’t relax when you’re around Keith Duncan, 31, wasn’t exactly excited to tell us this, but admits that there always seems to be a bit more pressure on me when I’m talking to a woman I really like. The room gets warm, I don’t feel as humorous as I usually am, and I keep hearing in my head: ‘Don’t screw this up.’ And that can only mean one thing: He’s trying his darndest to impress you.

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Conversation Tips: Once you are on a date, you only have about 30 minutes to build some sort of emotional chemistry. Do not waste time having long conversations about your children, pets, crazy hobbies and interests, or past relationships- (a definite do not.) Make sure conversation is not all about you. Ask questions. Make sure you are listening when they are answering. Make sure you ask questions as much as you answer them. Remember, the art of communication comes in two fo...rms, listening and talking. Stay away from politics and religion. These subjects are too intense for a first date. If it comes up during the date, change the subject. Try to keep conversation light and fun. Do not talk about your sex life, past, present, or what you would like in the future. Leave it in the bedroom where it belongs. Do not use an excessive amount of foul language on a first date; it’s a huge turn off. Do not talk about tough family wounds, history, or sadness. Do not talk about medications you are taking. That is your private business.

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How to tell if he likes you: "There's this guy," the question always starts, "and he does this and he said that and sometimes he does this other thing," you continue. Then comes the actual question, one we get at least twice a day, every day: "Does this mean he likes me?" Not that it isn't a valid question. Some guys can be hard to read. Not as hard as women, but still a challenge. Problem is, there is no way to know absolutely if a guy likes you, short of him saying so (and ...Continue reading

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Patti’s Dating Tips Preparing for the first date: When setting up the first date, spend no more than 5 minutes on the phone. You want there to be an air of mystery and have a lot to talk about on the actual date. Guys should make the initial call and suggest where to have the date. It shows initiative.... Early evenings are a great time for dates. Mornings remind too much of work and lunch is too informal. Early evenings allows you the opportunity, if you do like each other, to have more time together. The best places to meet for a first date are PUBLIC places. Restaurants are safe. Do not go to the movies, or secluded, quiet places. Keep it as public as possible. Stay away from bars and the club scene. There are too many people and too much activity to look at. You may lose focus of your date. Also, stay away from bookstores. That is where you meet, not where you date. A first date should never be a coffee date; it is the direct eye contact that make women uncomfortable. Try a nice restaurant or take a walk and have a chat. You have 10 seconds to make a first impression, so look your best. When dressing for a first date, dress casual, but nice. Do not wear sneakers or sweats. Less is better when it comes to jewelry, which goes for both men and women. Make sure you carry breath mints. And most importantly, be on time! See more

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