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Some people change when they see the light, others when they feel the heat. Caroline Schroeder

People with a high level of courage understand that failure is a risk to take much of the time and unavoidable some of the time. Rather than trying to avoid failure, they simply accept it as part of the process of success and see it as a learning opportunity.

Integrity can make us or break us. There are six qualities of character that define integrity: 1. People with integrity are able to connect with others and build trust. 2. People with integrity are oriented toward reality and are honest with themselves. 3. People with integrity always finish well, win or lose.... 4. People with integrity can embrace the negative (lemons) and make lemonade. 5. People with integrity are oriented toward increase (everybody wins solutions). See more

Part of a powerful poem by Kahlil Gibran On Good and Evil You are good when you strive to give of yourself. Yet you are not evil when you seek gain for yourself.... For when you strive for gain you are but a root that clings to the earth and sucks at her breast. Surely the fruit cannot say to the root, Be like me, ripe and full and ever giving of your abundance. For to the fruit giving is a need, as receiving is a need to the root. Please share what it means to you...Thx

HAPPY FATHER’S DAY As a therapist, I find that the role of a father in our lives is often underestimated. I encourage you to reflect upon your own experiences as a child. What role do you think your father played in your life? How does it affect how you relate and love others and how you function in your daily life? What are the qualities you gained as a result of the dynamics you had with your father?

All the human senses, sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch, are targeted toward the externals, perceiving our words. Not even one sense is targeted towards the internal. Isn’t it interesting? A wise man realizes the importance of looking inside the self and for that he needs to work against gravity, like a Rocketship that fights to leave the gravitational force. Yet, when it leaves the orbit, it finds freedom.

THE POWER OF ATTENTION Because of my blindness, I had developed a new faculty. Strictly speaking, all men have it, but almost all forget to use it. That faculty is attention. In order to live without eyes, it is necessary to be very attentive, to remain hour after hour in a state of wakefulness, of receptiveness and activity. Indeed, attention is not simply a virtue of intelligence or the result of education, and something one can easily do without. It is a state of being. It is a state without which we shall never be able to perfect ourselves. In its truest sense, it is the listening post of the universe. - Jacques Lusseyran, The Blind in Society

"An injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere." - Martin Luther King Jr. George Floyd's death - like other acts of racial injustice in recent times - lit a match locally that produced a raging fire globally. The anger forcefully states a message of desiring change and productive progress to combat racism, discrimination and inequality in any form. Clearly feelings of injustice are fueling this recent wave of anger. But while anger is the emotion of movement, holdi...ng on to it for too long can be harmful to our emotional health. The key is to use it effectively, with conscious clarity that ensures it is put to best use for the individual and common good. To this end, Martin Luther King, Jr. and his relationship with anger and his ability to harness understandable rage can teach us how to use these powerful emotions to fight for equality and create more value in the universe. With undying hope for continued improvement - individually and collectively. Together, as a community, we can all rise and reach our full potential.

The power of synthesis and integration...

Happiness is not based on external factors, it is based on an individual’s mindset. If you want to think about happiness while considering external factors, mindfully filter those factors to positively see the gap between what you have and what you want. The key here is to cultivate gratitude for what you already have. When you do that, you naturally decrease the gap between what you have and what you want to ultimately enhance your state of happiness.

We cannot choose our external circumstances, but we can always choose how we respond to them Epictetus

The 2 core components of CREATING THE LIFE YOU WANT 1. CLARITY OF YOUR DREAMS & GOALS - your vision for your future and defining who you want to be, what you want to do and what you want to have. 2. AND BEING AT EASE IN THE NOW- being okay in the present moment and accepting your current reality.

When you speak right, you practice thinking right and acting right. Speak what is true. Speak what is kind. Do not speak what is true but unkind. Do not speak what is kind but untrue. ... Adapted from The Bhagavad Gita See more