Steeped In Hope

Over the past several weeks we’ve been talking about the cycle that a couple enters when they’re attempting to repair a relationship breach or trauma. You’ve seen an overview of this cycle and in the last two weeks we’ve talked about building emotional safety and then building trust in the relationship. For many people they feel like that should be the end. We have trust. Everything is great. For those who stop there, oftentimes partners end up feeling unseen, unacknowledged..., and unheard. . . . #steepedinhope #relationships #marriage #millenialmarriage #millenialwifehood #relationshipskills #relationshipgoals #communication #weddings #couples #couplestherapy #communicationskills #trust #futuregoals #sharedvision #values #conflictresolution #affairrecovery #NewYork #NewYorkMarriage #NewYorkCity #Queens #ForestHills #KewGardens #RegoPark #teletherapy See more

When it comes to these specific behaviors, I definitely encourage couples to share some examples of specific behaviors with one another that build trust for them. Because this is so personal, it’s valuable to share with your partner to ensure that you’re getting the results that you want. Your partner may be thinking they’re building trust with you, but it’s behavior that just doesn’t matter as much for you. . . . #steepedinhope #relationships #marriage #millenialmarriage #millenialwifehood #relationshipskills #relationshipgoals #communication #weddings #couples #couplestherapy #communicationskills #trust #futuregoals #sharedvision #values #conflictresolution #affairrecovery #NewYork #NewYorkMarriage #NewYorkCity #Queens #ForestHills #KewGardens #RegoPark #teletherapy

Consistency refers to being predictable in your behavior. Oftentimes a breach in a relationship is a perceived departure from who you are in a relationship and what your behavior is assumed in the context of your relationship. For example, when you’re being consistent, you will always be in the place that you say you will be and if you cannot be there (because life happens) you give as much notice as humanly possible. . . . #steepedinhope #relationships #marriage #millenialmarriage #millenialwifehood #relationshipskills #relationshipgoals #communication #weddings #couples #couplestherapy #communicationskills #trust #futuregoals #sharedvision #values #conflictresolution #affairrecovery #NewYork #NewYorkMarriage #NewYorkCity #Queens #ForestHills #KewGardens #RegoPark #teletherapy

When I say follow through, I literally mean doing what you say you’re going to do. If you’re going to get up to eat breakfast with your partner, then get up and eat breakfast with your partner. While follow through is important all the time, it’s especially important when you’re in the process of rebuilding trust after a significant breach. If you remember way back to the emotional bank account, following through adds a bunch of deposits to the emotional bank account, while n...ot following through during this time is a major withdrawal. A lot more meaning becomes attached to the behaviors that you do or do not follow through on. (There is also a message in here about being honest about what you can and cannot do rather than telling your partner what you think they want to hear because you have done something that created a breach). . . . #steepedinhope #relationships #marriage #millenialmarriage #millenialwifehood #relationshipskills #relationshipgoals #communication #weddings #couples #couplestherapy #communicationskills #trust #futuregoals #sharedvision #values #conflictresolution #affairrecovery #NewYork #NewYorkMarriage #NewYorkCity #Queens #ForestHills #KewGardens #RegoPark #teletherapy See more